PDA And Kids: How Much Is Too Much, Or Too Less, Rather!

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When it comes to PDA, there are already various censors going around that do not encourage the same. If you have kid(s) at home, then one of the strongest censor is probably sitting right next to you, right now!

PDA, or the lack of it, is a conversation that hubby and I engage in almost ever so often. It is something that we both are aware of, and no matter how much we tried to include bits of it in our everyday life (or some point in life after having kids!), it just doesn't seem to work out.

Our older daughter is soon going to be 7, but let her see mommy and daddy hold hands and that big drop of tear will trickle down almost instantly, though she will try to hide it and go and be sad in her room. It doesn't help that I know everything she does and every mood she goes through...

So, if my holding hands with hubby makes her sad, it can't immediately make me feel happy, right?

And it's been a constant struggle since we can remember.

I guess in some ways it is to the fact that I was always overly involved with my daughter ever since she was born. But that is what you generally do with a baby, right? I couldn't spend a moment without her being in it, and that remains true, even to this day.

Now that our second daughter is here and soon going to turn a year (what?! already?! the sisters share their birthday), I can see the signs are with her too! Not a surprise there.

Of course it is important for kids to understand that things like holding hands or hugging and even kissing are natural ways of expressing love. This is what enables them to grow up and happily express their emotions in a better and more healthy way.

And while we can see that our chances at PDA in a 'couple' way are pretty slim, we make sure that the PDA is alive in at least the 'family' kind of way.

So it is that our home is a hugs home. We always indulge in hugs, all the time! Going to bed is a time of tumble-over-mommy-daddy-baby hug time...We end up snuggling, cuddling, hugging, holding hands, talking, kissing, tickling and genuinely crushing each other with love - even the little baby included!

Yes, we may not be able to get 'our' share of PDA, but the bigger picture is - we, as in ALL of us, are getting the PDA :)

- Debolina Raja Gupta

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And like I always believe in and say:
"Heal the world we live in
Save it for our children" - MJ

Debolina Raja Gupta