For the first few years of her life, till about the time till she was 3nhalf, my daughter was a round, chubby, teddy bear! She was all that a baby should be - roly poly, rounded, chubby cheeks, pudgy arms and legs...ohhh how I miss that! And then, she turned 4! And began losing all the baby fat, and yes, to my, as well as to the compliments she gets from many, she is now growing taller with each passing day, in fact, she is quite tall for her age, which is 5, and people regularly tell me that! I love hearing that too.
But if you ask me, I would have still loved to have her a bit more chubby for a bit more time. And this is exactly what her doctor scolded me recently for. Our friends and relatives complain each time they see my daughter that she is thin. I prefer to call her tall and lean. Her weight is perfect for a baby her age (I still call her baby, and I guess will always will!), even though it may seem by looking at her that she is lesser on the weighing scale than she should be.
There have been many times that I have asked myself if my daughter is eating enough. Most of us mums are plagued with this question, isn't it?
And as if our anxiety wasn’t
enough, the constant questioning of family members and friends, and the usual
questions of ‘oh look at her, she’s grown
so thin!’ or comparisons like ‘my son
was quite chubby at this age, how come your daughter is so thin? Did you check with
the doctor?’ are sure to make you go running to your baby’s doctor, or to
sit browsing through the many books and websites to try and find out answers as
to why your baby isn’t growing chubby and fat, while other babies are!
It's only now that I've begun to learn to relax as a mother, that I've understood the logic of it. See, you may be a perfectly fine and healthy adult, but aren’t you
secretly always trying to reduce a little extra weight, or trying to slim down
a little bit more and get back to how you were during college days? The point is that when, after growing up, we constantly want to try and reduce our weight, why do we want our children to unnecessarily pile on weight and
look chubby just because it looks cute, or just because others say so?