If you haven't heard of a baby shower party yet, don't worry. Many mums, especially Indian mums, still don't go for a celebratory baby shower party, as it is considered inappropriate in many Indian customs to celebrate baby's arrival pre-birth.
While the custom originally is that someone else should throw the baby shower party for you, it's absolutely fine if you plan your own and organise it. You don't need to wait those 9 months for someone to do it for you, it's entirely okay if you do it for yourself :-)
But if you would like to have a baby shower party for yourself, or host it for a close friend or relative, here are a few things to keep in mind:
1. If you are hosting the party - check with the expecting mommy if she is okay with having the celebration before baby arrives. Some mums would want a party post-delivery, and having a baby shower after the delivery is also a common idea.
2. The date of the party should be such that mommy is not uncomfortable. The ideal time to have the shower is by the 32nd week, even earlier, but in case it's not happened, you can do it right away! As the delivery date nears, mommy will start getting more and more uncomfortable and it may actually be difficult to stay on the toes for a longer period of time.
3. Keep the party for about 2-3 hours, and make sure it wraps up within that time. This will ensure that the mommy-to-be gets to have all the fun without getting too tired or exhausted.
4. Prepare the invitee list in advance, making sure you're calling guests you are well-acquainted with and who are comfortable with each other. You just want to have fun in your party, and not try to be a peace-maker or conversation initiator while going through your pregnancy. Keep the number of invitees short and sweet.
5. If you're planning to have the food ready at home, make sure it's something that can be easily prepared and won't take long to male. Simple easy finger-foods are the best bet.
6. While the original idea was to have only ladies at the party, these days, it's completely acceptable to have the dad-to-be and his friends at the party too. Of course the group should be such that they are all comfortable with each other, but the idea here is that, since it's the dad's baby too, why not let him have the fun and pampering too?
7. Colour Theme is no more restricted to pinks and blues - especially in Indian families where sex determination is illegal. Since you don't know the sex of the coming baby, you can either go for a pink-blue-white colour theme. Other colours that are really cool to try out are orange, green, bright yellow, white and red and any such combo you may like :-)
These are some of the basic things to keep in mind while hosting a baby shower. Rest assured, you and the guests are gonna have a fab time :-)
- Debolina Raja Gupta
And like I always believe in and say:
'Heal the world we live in
Save it for our children' - MJ
Be good to your little one, and to the millions of little ones out there who truly need every bit of love and compassion they can get.....Be a grown up...save the little ones.... Debolina Raja Gupta